About

I know that being a female, in Law Enforcement, comes with a unique set of challenges on the force, in relationships, and in life. As a relationship coach, my goal is to help you gain back your confidence, let go of regret, and build the future you want for yourself.

I worked in the police force for 20 years. It was my dream job ever since I was a little girl, and I would get lost in mystery and detective books, hoping one day I could help people too. Little did I know at the time, but my imperfect eyesight would put that dream on hold while I tried to find satisfaction in other careers, even moving to Japan for a year. Then, in 1998 I moved to San Diego, where the department had lower vision standards, and I was hired on as a police officer in November 1998. 

I finally had my dream job. 

But the bliss quickly disappeared as I came face to face with the struggles women as first responders encounter every day. Other officers told me not to be proactive and only work when needed. I wanted them to accept me, so I heeded their advice. 

Several years later, while standing curbside at the airport talking to a coworker, I had an eye-opening realization: I was working for one of the best police departments in the best location in the world, doing my dream job, but I was not happy. 

That day, I decided to be the officer I wanted to be. I applied and became a member of the dive team and started doing the work I wanted to do, regardless of other officers’ opinions. Later, I became a Canine Explosive Detection Handler and was finally doing police and detective work on the streets of San Diego.

But that’s not the end of my story because there was still a disconnect between the life I was living and the woman I truly wanted to be. So in one month, after 20 years on the force, I decided to retire, end my marriage, move out of my family home, and figure it out once and for all. I came across The Life Coach School podcast, and it changed my life. I started managing my mind and felt relief from the guilt, pain, shame, and sadness I’d held on to for many years. I gained confidence, began to trust myself, and discovered that my job or relationship status does not define my worth.

I became a certified Relationship Coach for Women in Law Enforcement careers because I know the struggles. I also know how to overcome them with mindset work that transforms from the inside out. Are you ready to learn how to manage your mindset to improve your relationships, with a balanced lifestyle to become the best version of yourself?